It’s Wednesday. Demonly enough, I’ve felt down every Wednesday in recent memory. It’s strange because Wednesday nights I get together with my small group at church. We eat, fellowship, worship God with songs and then hear an encouraging word. Typically, that combination of stuff is awesome. It’s enjoyable. It’s uplifting.
So why don’t I feel encouraged? Why am I not counting down the minutes until I leave? Well, I’ve chalked it up to persecution from Satan. He’s got me down. He’s got me unexcited. He’s put a heaviness in my spirit. I’ve attributed it to tiredness. I’d rather stay here and sit on the couch or watch a movie and go to bed early. I’d rather just sulk here in isolation and pet my dog.
It’s silly how doing uneventful, community-deprived things seem more intriguing to me than spending time with acquaintances.
Wait. Acquaintances is the problem. Though I’ve spent multiple hours with these people and even shared a lot of my heart and self with them, I feel like we are only on an acquaintance level. I haven’t come to a level of dependency with them. I don’t need them to carry out my day. They’re an add-in, not essential.
And…what’s worse…is that we’ve talked about how we need to be more than people who meet every Wednesday. We need to dig deep with each other. We need to spend time outside of our small group. We need to make a sacrificial investment of time to each other.
It appears (from the outside) that others do spend time together. Young couples visit each other and eat meals with one another. Some of the college-aged guys hang out, too.
But me…I’ve distanced myself from them. I think partly because I don’t want to make their problems my problems. I don’t want the mental burden of what they’re dealing with.
Another part of it is I don’t like surface conversation. I never really have. I want deep, sincere, loving relationships. I want people that I long to talk to and connect with. I don’t want to talk to someone who asks me the same bland question every time they see me: “So, Lindsay…how was work today?”
Although, I’m reminded that my deep relationships now used to be surface relationships. They started at a surface level.
However, they quickly changed to meaningful. After one day or a few conversations, we were steadfast friends. I’ve spent months with these folks and some of them still don’t even understand what I do at work.
Spirit-led vulnerability enhances relationships. I haven’t been vulnerable. Well…vulnerable enough. I value quality time. I haven’t really given these people my quality time. I’ve given them my obligated time. The hours that I feel I’m required to be there in order to be considered part of the small group. They’ve got me out of duty, not necessarily depth.
Honestly, it pains me to still be at a surface level with them. I’m nearly in tears writing about it. I’m not exactly sure what it will take for me to break through to the next level. But I do know I can’t wait for them to confide in me first. I need to be a leader.
I need to be real instead of faux real.
I need to press through the heavy, sad spirit that has fallen upon me and emerge with a light, lifely spirit instead.
I need to enhance my relationships.